Written on: April 12, 2018
by Elisa Coleclough
“magic pills” (don’t really exist)
I am sure some of you are familiar with the movie saga “Matrix” and it is main character “Neo”. I am also sure if you have watched the movie you are aware of the famous scene in which Neo is presented by “Morpheus” with the two pills, the “red pill” and the “blue pill”.
Why do I come to one of my favorite movies of all time for this blog? Well, it is that I can relate how much at some points in our life we all desire to be saved or simply take the “magic pill” that will prevent us from any pain (thus any personal growth) and save our day.
We live in a society of instant gratification where everything, or almost everything can be worked out by a pill. When ill, depressed, overweight, etc., we are presented with the “pill” that will cure each of these evils. The truth (and this is my personal opinion) is that we actually need to go throughout some of these periods of pain and suffering in order to dig deep down in ourselves and to be able to bring out from the caterpillar the beautiful butterfly.
“You have to know who you are to grow your potential. But you have to grow in order to know who you are” – John C. Maxwell
Every time we come out of our comfort zone, we are actually in pain, fear or anxiety, or any other feeling that we do not quite fancy. We actually need to overcome ourselves, prevail over our “older” selves to bring about the light and new opportunities.
There is no magic pill, really. Believe me when I tell you, with every opportunity I have had when meeting successful people, from vice presidents, corporate CFOs, entrepreneurs, social leaders, etc. if they have ever found out about “that” pill which “saves” our life magically. They did not find it and they had actually go through very painful experiences to grow and become who they are now.
Additionally, they all have answered me back with similar responses: failure, growth, success, hardship, pain, self-awareness, expanded consciousness, self-beliefs, etc., they all come in one “combo” named life. There is no out-of-this world solution, it all is up to us.
No matter how successful someone looks from the outside, at some points in their life grievous and unfortunate emotions also stirred within them. Some people were born with certain physical impairments they had to overcome, others were born in dysfunctional families, other simply took the wrong decisions at an early stage in life, what they all share in life is that they all learned and became who they are now. It is never too late to improve, change or develop ourselves. Remember improvement is the result of small steps (read my blog on this topic).
Moreover, life comes with no instructions nor “warming up” time. We are all thrown into life and we need to understand that every experience whether good or bad is part of overall growth. Simple as that.
The “pill” offered by life may be sweet like victory and success but do not be drunk of it too much, for you need to learn and get back on your feet back on the ground. At other times, that “pill” is bitter with deception and failure, then we cannot let ourselves fall apart, we need to learn the lesson, analyze, incorporate the teachings and get back on our feet again. The end result is that whether we fly high above in bliss or low below in sadness, our feet need to come back down on the ground and learn. That is called being assertive.
So, now that you know that there’s no magic solution for any of our hardships, be prepared to embrace them, expect them, learn from them and move on.
“for the only constant in life is change”
In my personal opinion, we should all learn from the very early stages of life that the only pill we have is named “accountability”. We need to be responsible for ourselves, not playing the victim or the tyrant, simply knowing that to get balance, we must master ourselves from inside out. Invest in growing our consciousness and that means moving out of our comfort zone, that safe zone that offers warmth, calm, but also being stuck in an endless poisoning dream of unconsciousness, unawareness and obliviousness to the better version we could be of ourselves.
“it is never too late to be what you might have been” – George Elliot
Let’s not wait for “Neo” or any other super hero to save our day … let’s look in the mirror and see into the eyes of the only person that make our life better and hold him/her/them accountable for actions and results: ourselves.
“God’s gift to us: potential
Our gift to God: developing it”
— Author unknown
Finally, I am closing up with this quote which is simple and deep in its meaning:
“When a man has put a limit on what he WILL do, he has put a limit on what he CAN do” – Charles Schwab
Have a great day/week, Eli.